A friend is someone who is always there for us, in happiness, in sadness, in despair, in need, in hell or in paradise. A friend boosts you with confident when you fail, he is that one person who brings out the best in you, who doesn’t limits his love and care for you, who holds your hand tight and promise never to leave. A friend can be anyone, it can be your mother, you father, your teacher, your mentor and you, are your first friend.
But life is uncertain and because of unforeseeable circumstances, a pair of loving hands that were always ready to hold you leaves you. When grief surrounds you and you try to rebuild yourself again because you are assured that who has guided you, who has brought happiness would have never wanted you to collapse in a heap.
Is it so easy to shrug away the sadness? No, certainly not. And hence, we need someone to answer us when we are in doubts, someone to turn us into a confident person from a fret, from groggy into a strong person.
There are these three true friends who will flog a dead horse for you. They are altruistic, considerate and self-giving. They will never leave you if you are true to them.
(Hey. They won’t whatsapp or skype with you but they definitely will help you out.)
- God: Before I explain how God is your friend, please note that God is God and religion is not God. It doesn’t matter what religion you follow, you should know the fact that there is one God. Dr. APJ Abdul Kalam in his book ‘My journey’ wrote that his mentor, Jalalludin was a devout man. For him, God was a friend. God would present a solution if we speak to him about our dilemmas. But Dr. Kalam thought that there can only be one entity that can listen to different prayers in different languages at different places.
We should adopt such kind of thought process. Whenever you feel low, stressed, all you have to do is sit and meditate. Speak to him keeping your trust and faith in him and he will show you the way.
(We all are educated and hence, we should not confuse prayers with superstitions. God doesn’t ask for money or food, serve him with devotion and happiness.)
- Nature: Nature is a god-gifted friend. It has served us for years and shall continue to do so; all it asks for is care. Now how do we make nature our friend?
You find this friend in different avatars. As sea, as a tree, as birds, as a light and so many other forms. When you talk to nature, it speaks in different voices. When you are tensed and you feel the need to relax yourself, go on a walk, breathe the air, and listen to the birds chirping. Embrace the peace around you. Doing Let the warmth of the sun wash over your face, feel the coolness of the air and see the beauty of the nature around. Walking on quiet roads or by the seaside, listening to the sea. Look at that tall tree, standing tall and strong. Take inspiration from the nature and add it to your daily routine. This will get back to you into the swing of the world.
- Books: I don’t even need to tell that how books revive us each time, what role they play in our life and thoughts it puts in our head. Books do not just guide us but they bring solace in sadness, uplift you and bring balance in thinking.
Here, I talk about all kind of books including three holy books namely Gita, Kuran and Bible. They help you to find answers to questions that no one can answer. An example, Bhagwat Gita 2.47 says “You have a right to perform your prescribed duty, but you are not entitled to the fruits of action. Never consider yourself the cause of the results of your activities, and never be attached to not doing your duty.’’
The most beautiful and profound that I find In Gita is “See the flower hoe generously it distributes perfume and honey. When its work is done, it falls away quietly. Try to be like the flower, unassuming despite all its qualities.” It means that whatever task you have been given, complete it with all love and dedication and then think of new ideas and plans and new thoughts.
Words from Kuran, ‘’Light upon light. Allah guides His light to whom He will.’ It means that work with dedication and optimism.Poems are the collection of words that describe your feeling and you assure yourself that the book knows you and will guide you well.
Here, read few very inspirational lines by Lewis Carroll,
“Let craft, ambition, spite,
Be quenched in Reason’s night,
Till weakness turn into might,
Till what is dark be light,
Till what is wrong is right!”
A book is always a friend. It gives you dreams, confidence, courage and touches your heart.
These three friends don’t care if you are ugly or boring, long or tall. They are your partner. Befriend spirituality, environment and words.